Cinderella Complex

I marvel at the contradiction
Of  a female who'll boast of her
"Independence"
Yet, disgruntled
She hasn't found a man in which she is
Dependent.


Hiding behind
The guise of strength
Torn between emotions
Forlorn previous relationships
Believing it's besieged their:

Unconscious
Secretions
Sending off

Pheromones

Despite their 'accomplishments'

The desire to be taken care of
 Triumphs all

*****

"Show me a socially empowered woman; and I'll show you a threat, because she chooses to control her own passions" ~*Gary Null 91.5fm

While listening to Gary Null’s show; towards the end of the program, Gary Null briefly mentioned the "Cinderella Complex". As I Chuckled nodding my head in agreement, the first word that popped into my mind was opportunist.

Opportunist- A) One who takes advantage of any opportunity to achieve an end, often with no regard for principles or consequences. B) A person who takes advantage of any circumstance which will help him personally.

Due to the "Cinderella Complex"

Cinderella Complex

"The Cinderella Complex was first described by Colette Dowling, who wrote a book on women’s fear of independence as an unconscious desire to be taken care of by others, based primarily on a fear of being independent."

"The complex is named after the fairy tale character Cinderella, popularized by the Disney movie of the same name. It is based on the idea of women that the story portrays, as being beautiful, graceful and polite but who cannot be independent characters themselves, and who must be rescued by an outside force, usually a man (e.g. the prince)."

Most women will forever be the pawn of an opportunist, as they are driven strictly by emotions.

Emotion- A mental state that arises spontaneously rather than through conscious effort and is often accompanies by physiological changes.

Emotions cloud reason (Logic). As the definition sited above "it is a state outside conscious effort".

Due to lack of logic (simplistic comprehension) women (more so than men) like to play tit for tat, aka "checkers". While others, have a strategy/reason for what they do "Chess".

After speaking with a particular female who severely suffers from the "Cinderella Complex". As a "woman" she only saw the negative attributes in what's previously written. A perspective outside the threshold of her conciousness, due to her rose tinted, perception of life. Another’s lack of understanding will never stop me from voicing my thoughts. Although I know, you can’t always shine a light, giving insight to those who are unwilling to accept a brightness that is often blinding, in its honesty...... certain things NEED to be said.

Everyone in life is an opportunist, EVERYONE (More than others, are conniving). Just as EVERYONE has been a pawn (another person’s victim to achieve personal gain). We all play a different role (chessman) in other people’s strategy.

There are 6 Pieces in chess

Pawn- Except on its first move, a pawn may only move one square forward at a time. Pawns can never move backwards.

Knight- Moves in an L shape in any direction. The Knight is the only piece whose journey is not impeded by other pieces on the board. If its destination square is vacant, it may jump over pieces in its way.

Bishop- Moves diagonally any number of squares, forwards or backwards as long as its path is not blocked by other pieces.

Rook (Castle)- Moves horizontally and vertically any number of squares, forwards or backwards.

Queen- Is the most powerful piece on the board. This is because it can control more squares than any other chessman. It moves straight forward, backwards or diagonally any number of squares as long as its path is not blocked by other pieces.

King- Is the most important piece on the chessboard. It can never be captured and if it’s in danger it must be made safe immediately. If it is not possible to make the king safe then the game is lost.

"The King" ~*"Always protect your investment"

"The Bishop, The Rook" ~* "The formula of the con is quite simple – you seduce people by their own greed.

"The Knight" ~* The trick is to know when you’re the latter, so you can become the former."

"The Pawn"~* In every game and con there is always an opponent and there is always a victim, the more control the victim thinks he has, the less control he actually has."

"The Queen" ~* If you change the rules on what controls you,you will change the rules on what you can control."

"Strategy" ~* Inside an environment one can control. The bigger the environment, the easier the control ... so the opponent simply distracts their victim by getting them consumed with their own consumption."

The game of chess is presented as a vantage point, to recognize different strategies. Giving one a glimpse of the maneuvers and tactics used, to achieve a desired end. As I’ve stated earlier we all play a different role in other peoples "game/life".

At work you might be the Pawn.

In a relationship, the Bishop/Rook.

To friends and family, the Knight.

When it comes to your perception, actions and reactions you must be the Queen.

As your quality and way of life is always King.

When it pertains to yourself you should always be the "Queen". One must memorize how each piece operates. As it is essential, that you understand and P.Y.P. "Play Your Position" (accordingly).

Empower yourself, and recognize your worth. It is your own way of thinking that victimizes you into constantly playing the role of a disillusioned pawn. Due to your need to be magically rescued, taken care of and pampered by someone other than yourself. Singles you out as; an easy target.

And PLEASEEEEE!!! read something other than a ghetto novel with a "happily ever after ending". Nothing in life is instantaneously achieved without effort. Life isn’t a fairy tale. You aren’t going to meet the perfect man that’s going to fall in love with you at first glance, fly you off to the Bahamas’, and move you out the "hood". Lavish you with diamonds, furs, clothes, and cars. Leaving everyone around you (preferably other women) jealous because they aren’t you…..

Aren’t you tired of the same preconceived, recurring DREAM????

Until you give up this self perpetuated "Cinderella Complex"  the stench of neediness will seep through your pores. You’ll continuously be surpassed by everyone around you. As you chose to elect being "envied" and "taken care of" as your strategy.

For your own sake understand how "Life imitates chess"……….

On that note I will end, how I started:

"Show me a socially empowered woman; and I’ll show you a threat, because she chooses to control her own passions"

And why is this woman a threat?
Because in life; people want to be able to control the outcome of your actions….